Attachment & Relationships

Relationships can be deeply meaningful and at times deeply challenging. You may notice patterns of closeness and distance, difficulty trusting, fear of being too much or not enough, or a longing for connection alongside a need to protect yourself. These experiences can feel confusing, especially when you’re unsure where they come from or why they keep showing up.

Many of the ways we relate to others began early in life, shaped by our relationships with parents or caregivers. These early experiences often taught us how to seek comfort, express needs, and stay connected. Over time, these patterns can quietly follow us into adult relationships, especially during moments of vulnerability, conflict, or emotional closeness.

Therapy offers a compassionate space to explore these patterns with curiosity rather than judgment. Together, we gently listen to the parts of you that learned to adapt in order to feel safe or connected, and explore how those strategies may still be influencing your relationships today.

Reconnecting with Safety and Connection

Attachment work invites you to slow down and notice how your body, emotions, and inner world respond in relationship. You may begin to understand where you protect yourself, where you long for closeness, and what helps you feel safe enough to stay present. This process supports greater self-trust, clearer boundaries, and more intentional ways of relating.

What we may explore in therapy:

  • How early relationships and caregiving experiences shaped your sense of safety, trust, and connection

  • The different parts of you that show up in relationships, including those that seek closeness, protect through distance, or stay alert to rejection

  • Patterns that emerge during conflict, emotional intimacy, or moments of vulnerability

  • Emotions such as longing, fear, anger, grief, or shame, and how they are experienced in both mind and body

  • How your nervous system responds to closeness or disconnection, and ways to support grounding and regulation

  • Boundaries, needs, and communication patterns that feel clear, respectful, and authentic

  • Internalized beliefs about worth, lovability, or “being too much,” and gently responding to self-judgment

  • Strengthening self-trust and internal safety so connection feels more secure and less overwhelming

  • Moving toward relationships that align with your values, capacity, and desire for meaningful connection